HappilySingle™ vs Open Marriage vs Fake Monogamy – IMRAN™

In my opinion, maybe 12.5% couples can fall under the happily married umbrella.

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I’m happily single, never married. I would consider marrying the person I fall in love with deep enough but do not feel the need to be married for the sake of being married.

I also joke that I am waiting to find my fourth beloved so that I can marry all four of my future wives together. (Muslim joke).

The reason I created the HappilySingle™ brand was to ridicule the fallacy of society’s “Happily Married” marketing of an obsolete failure of an institution, marriage. 50% end in divorce as we all know.

I believe at least 25% others are having affairs. Another 12.5% are staying together unhappily for the sake of the kids, or out of fear, or because divorce would be economically impractical.

In my opinion, maybe 12.5% couples can fall under the happily married umbrella.

I would ask the married ones among you which category you fall under but for obvious reasons no one would be able to speak the full truth.

I do have dear friends here who are in beautiful open marriages. So, when I saw this article in The New York Times, I had to share it here and ask your opinions on both the institution of marriage, non-traditional marriages, and non-marriage relationships (that often last longer than real marriages).

Tell me what you all think.

Imran Anwar

© 2017 IMRAN

Last Birthday With Abu – IMRAN™

Every time I used to bid adieu to my father I always soaked it all in; time and feelings, sights and sounds, love and lifelong bond. One never knows when it is the last time you meet a loved one.

Make You Very Cross/Word Game. National Scrabble Day. – IMRAN™

The same day that is Thomas Jefferson’s birthday, April 13, is also known as National Scrabble Day.

(Inter)National Sibling Day. – IMRAN™

Even though none of my family members are here in the United States with me, this photo taken 21 years ago at our blessed home in Lahore, Pakistan, is a great reminder of what is important in life.

“Just Say No” To The Drug Of Easy Lazy Parenting & Messed Up Future Lives Of Children – IMRAN™

For my 27 years living in America and even in my own relatives in Pakistan, I saw kids basically controlling parents. Here in America I see parents trying to be kids’ best friends.

I love and respect incredible single parents who go all out to provide for their kids.

I have known and loved several single moms who were in my life at one time or another, who were more amazing as struggling single parents than a rich two-parent family could be.

But I also sometimes see people, including single parents, thinking that not granting every wish to a kid is some sort of crime or failure.

That is not true. Enough kids who had everything in life end up with messed up lives, and many who had little in childhood later rise to greatness. It is good, loving AND tough parenting, not saying Yes to everything, that sets children’s future.

For my 27 years living in America and even in my own relatives in Pakistan, I saw kids basically controlling parents. Here in America I see parents trying to be kids’ best friends.

My siblings and I are thankful that we had parents who provided us our every need but did not grant every wish. They went above and beyond, even though we heard No plenty of times.

But, in the long run, they made the most important wish come true and were our best friends. They set us up for lives that, despite the usual ups and downs, could not have been more blessed.

I saw this Share on my beloved beautiful friend Sara’s wall and had to share and comment.

What do you think? Let me know here and on the post on FaceBook.

https://www.facebook.com/MyIMRAN/posts/1325132294170425

Bard & Bard. Memories Of Quarter Century Ago – IMRAN™

We had driven to a beautiful part of the country to #Bard College. A beloved friend of mine from our days in #Lahore, #Pakistan, the late and gone too soon Haider Salahuddin, had asked me to pick up his younger brother, Fahad Salahauddin, at the airport and after a bit of NYC sightseeing, to drive him to Bard.

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Bard & Bard, In Memory Of A Friend. Exactly 25 Years Ago! Upstate New York photo (printed and scanned in 1990) was taken…

Posted by Imran Anwar on Thursday, July 16, 2015

Happy Mother’s Day, Half Century Ago, Today And Forever – IMRAN™

One day the number of years that you have been gone will exceed the number of days I was blessed with your love, your presence, your prayers in every aspect of my life.

 

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My Late Mother And I, Happy Mother’s Day, A Half Century Ago, Captured By My Late Father. —

Beloved Ami Jan, as you look down from your place in heaven, on this and every Mother’s Day, please know that every day that has passed since you left too soon 22 years ago has been a day devoted to loving, missing and remembering you.

One day the number of years that you have been gone will exceed the number of days I was blessed with your love, your presence, your prayers in every aspect of my life.

But I promise you my love for you will continue to flow even more deeply in my soul and the tears that roll down my cheeks as I write these lines that have never let up, never dried, will mark the passing of all the days I have yearned for you to somehow be back, even if it meant exchanging the remaining days of my life for you to have a chance to live again.

Happy Mother’s Day, Ami, will be when God wills for me to walk up to you in the afterlife, and say, I am your son, and I hope I lived a life that was worthy of having been your son. I love you, forever and beyond, Ami.


Imran
Mother’s Day 2014
Apollo Beach